What can you do when you think that you don’t deserve good and push good intended things and people away from you?
It’s important to have self-love
and to value yourself
Sometimes people listen to what others (even family, parents, friends and teachers) think about them and their potential. You might have accepted some of those things as true and started believing them about yourself, instead of understanding that that’s their opinions; whether formed from jealousy, dislike, emotional predisposition learned from their own parents and significant others in their lives.
Sometimes people have been in very difficult, challenging abusive relationships (substance, emotional, physical abuse and have been put down in so many ways, so many times, the lines sometimes become fudged, and unclear in their minds and their emotions as to whether they did something to cause the abuse or whether what the person spouting out negativity about them is somewhat true. It is essential to navigate yourself toward being the happy, healthy and successful you.
How do you hold on to the real truth about yourself after coming through challenging circumstances and relationships?
It goes back to the basics and the fundamental that you have the fundamental right to happiness and being the best you, you create yourself to be. But those hurtful experiences and challenges tried to undermine that. Take the lessons you’ve learned and rise above the pain, the victimization and disadvantageous situations.
Sometimes there’s no one there physically to hold your hand and help you out. But there is your deep inner authentic self who knows how to lead you out of the chaos, out of the pain. Let the spark of Truth begin to ignite that you deserve good. Even if you don’t believe it, accept it as the principal, the truth, your personal truth that you apply to yourself, instead of the negativity around you and negative self-talk you might have engaged in most of the time.
Show Yourself Love
Accept that change is possible. Desire good change. And then start to take positive actions to create the good that you want in your life, beginning with positive self-talk.
Remember that negative words were projected at you repeatedly until you came to believe them about yourself. So you will need to put in the repeated positive thoughts to get rid of the negative ones. Then thinking more positively will become more natural than thinking negatively.
Forgiving yourself and forgiving others is also important in the step to feeling better, experiencing better, and being the better you! Know that the better and best you is inside of you and has always been there.
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It comes to the point in life of defining for yourself your good thoughts about yourself and getting rid of those negative perceptions that others labeled you; so you can believe you deserve good and receive good.
There are those individuals who see the good in you because they are seeing the real you. Therefore, they have no problem in understanding that you deserve good. So, you need to rethink how you see yourself through a more positive perspective about yourself.
10 Journal Prompts for Self-appreciation
Here are a list of some journal prompts you can reflect on:
- What is one of the qualities I like most about yourself?
- On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being the worst) generally, how often do I engage in negative self-talk throughout the day?
- What is your favorite hobby? If you don’t have one, what would it be?
- What are some habits you’ve picked up that you want to get rid of? What’s one good habit you can start to do to counteract at least one bad habit?
- What do you need or want more of in your life?
- Are you living the way you want to live? If not what are three main things that you can do to live the way you really want to live?
- What do I value?
- What do I want my relationships to be like?
- What are my top three goals in life?
- Write a letter of forgiveness to yourself, then, within a day or two, write a letter of encouragement to yourself.
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The journals below can help you to identify your goals, daily intentions, manage your day and engage in daily reflection.
Move forward in true self-appreciation and increased self-discovery with positivity.
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